This week I wish I had read the readings before I got married 12 years ago. There was a lot of useful information and a lot I wish my husband had been educated on. I liked what James Harper said that in Genesis 2:24 we read "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave until his wife: and they shall be one flesh." that this scripture doesn't mean abandon your family but it means to establish your own family and keep your mother rand father as the support and encouragement they should be after you gain a spouse.
Many in-laws are great. I always hear about in-laws that help and support the marriages and mind their own business and only help or give advice when asked. Then I have my own situation where my mother in law at my own wedding reception decided to make it about her and "losing" her son, where she proceeded to sing a song and read some poems she wrote about her son! My friends to this day don't let a year go by without reminding me about that situation that we can now laugh about but at the moment I wasn't laughing.
Things I have learned over my 12 years of marriage is how to be a mother in law by learning things not to do as mine did! I am very patient and respectful of the fact that she is my husband's mother but being that we are a military family she constantly cries that her son left her and moved away and no longer is around for her.
In-laws are important but there does need to be boundaries as each family should have their own traditions and each spouse should want to turn to each other for support and advice. Thankfully my husband has over time expressed that his family and we have established our won holiday traditions and birthday celebrations while incorporating both sides of the families.
Merging families isn't easy but they are worth keeping around!
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