Is your spouse your friend?

What makes a good friend? Who are your friends? Do you have a best friend? Do you have several? I would like to ask next is your best friend your husband or wife? If you answered no then maybe you have the answer to why maybe your relationship with your spouse isn’t the best or you seem to argue a lot and not resolve an issue. Friendships are important in a relationship.

John Gottman stated: “Bolstering your friendship is so critical in large part because it fuels the romance, passion, and great sex that we all hope marriage will provide, In fact, when a couple come to me complaining that sex has become routine, infrequent, or virtually nonexistent, I don’t start by handing them a sex manual Instead, I guide them through the first three principles so that they can reinforced and rediscover the camaraderie that brought them together in the first place. The strength of a couple’s friendship not only stokes the fire but also foretells the relationship’s future because it is the fundamental ingredient of positive sentiment override.”

When we are troubled in our marriage I hope that we always remember that our friend, our spouse, is who is there to help us through the tough times. Friends can talk, express their feelings, and share great memories together and that should be done with your spouse. I know to some people that to them saying your husband or wife is your best friend might sound cheesy and many will say that they need their own space from their husband or wife and I agree that  is important as well as being a good friend. Truly having a friendship with your spouse will strengthen your marriage relationship, and your love life. According to John Gottman it is the most important piece in a marriage, friendship.

When I look at my own husband I see a friend that is always there for me. Who supports me in my life goals, who doesn't get upset at my failures and is always encouraging me to do better. I hope this for everyone.